After getting engaged in November, Chad and I had little intention of immediately getting married. We have had a rather unconventional relationship, living together for years with 4 pups and loving it. Not being married has been more of a formality for quite some time. Furthermore, as you all know, we are wedding photographers. This means that we are always working during the ‘wedding season.’ My family is here on the east coast, and most of Chad’s family is clear across the country in Oregon. The list goes on and on as to why we thought getting married would be quite the undertaking.
Well, as I have written in the last couple posts, we had been planning a big family vacation to Barbados for quite some time. My immediate family was on board, and Chad had been trying to coax his to join us as well. I don’t remember how the whole ‘why not get married in Barbados’ idea was sparked, but it started out as sort of a joking proposal. Fast forward to mid-January, and Chad and I had a few more serious discussions about actually making that joke into a reality. Who wouldn’t want to get married in beautiful Barbados? Chad’s parents attending was a must, and they said yes. From there, we quickly began researching and covering the basics:
-Rings: My mom gave me a beautiful antique, rose gold wedding band that she has had for over 20 years. She thinks it’s from about the same time frame that my 1940’s diamond engagement ring is from. My engagement ring came from an antique jewelry shop in Florence, Oregon. We ordered Chad’s ring custom from a dealer on Etsy, a simple rose gold band. Thank you Nicole!
-Dress: I love everything J. Crew, and have had my eye on their new wedding dress collection for some time. I found a linen J. Crew gown from a second hand store near home, and could not have been happier with it.
-Chad’s attire: Chad chose a slate blue pair of chinos from H&M, a white dress shirt from J. Crew, and a yellowish tie from I’m not sure where. Simple as that, and he looked so handsome!
-Flowers: We picked out some flowers the day before the wedding in the town where we were staying.
-Ceremony Location: Ragged Point, Barbados. We live at the beach, so we wanted to find something more unusual but still very Barbados. Ragged Point immediately caught my idea, and we made it happen. Nothing like saying I do on the edge of a cliff!
-Dinner: We chose the beautiful Pisces Restaurant in St. Lawrence Gap. Right on the water, great food, perfect.
-Honeymoon: What honeymoon? 🙂 We stayed at a small little inn right next to Pisces for the night. We hope to plan a small little getaway in the future.
-Photography: How lucky are we to have our own personal photographer travel with us?! My brother Fletcher works for us from time to time shooting weddings here on the Outer Banks, so it was a no brainer.
Below are the two readings that we asked each of our moms to recite during the ceremony:
Apache Blessing: We have heard this read during many ceremonies and always agreed on our love for its words.
“Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness for you.
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one Life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth”
From “The Irrational Season”, by Madeleine L’Engle: This paragraph was read at our first wedding of 2010, 4 days before we were to leave for Barbados. I was immediately struck by its words and how they seemed to incapsulate almost my exact view on marriage.
“Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling.”
I think that covers it! It was exactly what we had hoped it would be. Enjoy the photos!
The view from our honeymoon suite, our breakfast, and our guest!